Shrinkle #25 · Relationships · 6 letters
Secure attachment
A pattern of attachment in which a child trusts that a caregiver will be available and responsive. The child uses the caregiver as a safe base to explore from and a haven to return to when distressed.
In the room
An adult with a secure style can usually ask for support, tolerate some distance and talk through conflict without feeling their relationship is under threat.
Something a client might say
“I can miss my partner when she travels without panicking that she will leave.”
An illustrative line, not a real client.
Online vs in the room
Online quizzes often sort people into fixed attachment styles, with secure as a flawless ideal. In research, secure attachment means trusting others will be there, and attachment patterns can change over life.
Where it comes from
One of the patterns identified by Mary Ainsworth using the Strange Situation procedure.
Related ideas
Avoidant attachment · Attachment bond · Attunement
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